Reminders are usually for our benefit, right? Like when your gas light comes on it means, get gas. For me, it signals I’ve got 100 more miles to go. I am famous for pushing it to the last fume to get me to the pumps. One day I will regret passing the ten stations to find the one with five cents cheaper per gallon. (I know, it isn’t that much, but still). Or the reminder that your car insurance is getting taken out automatically from your account tomorrow. Which signals me to go by the bank and put it in! But there are a few reminders that one does not need. i.e….
Yesterday I received a card in the mail from the veterinarian. It had a heartfelt note in it of condolences for my dog that passed away a couple weeks ago. Yes, I was finally getting to the point where I didn’t break down once a day. Like when I go and look for his bed, or check outside to see if he’s lying in the sun. It’s finally becoming bearable. Not forgettable, by any stretch, but doable. And then the card. Which I opened while driving the kids up the driveway. And there it was…they sent Walter’s paw print along with the written sentiment. OMG. Why? Why now? I shoved it back in the envelope and took a deep breath. I’m still thinking about it.
Here’s another example of a hurtful reminder: When the lovely people behind Facebook send you a memory of your cheating husband as he kisses you on the cheek. Ah yes, that was just six months ago…before my friend’s rat turd husband cheated on her. And there she gets a reminder of better times. Or when you get a snap shot of your family member who passed away, and you’re not quite over that one, either.
Reminders….not always a good thing. 🙁
On a happy note, because I need to always leave on one…I’m back to writing my new book. I’m feeling pretty good about it, too. Who wouldn’t like to imagine Kevin Costner all day? And be able to have him say the sweetest things to your heroine…which you imagine is yourself? LOL!! I’m down with it! 🙂
I’m sorry about Walter; that paw print had to be a tough one. I would have been sobbing.
I know what you mean about those reminders. A friend from high school lost her life partner last year, and she’s having to relive his last weeks again through Facebook’s “On This Day” feature. (She kept everyone informed about his health with an amazingly upbeat attitude, but now it seems cruel to keep showing her those “he’s gonna make it” posts.)
Kevin Costner is a great choice, by the way. I’ll imagine his voice when I read your book!
Thank you for your words! I tried not to bawl in front of the kids. And how awful for your friend. Cruel to say the least. 🙁 Kevin can bring on a smile if I try hard enough to change the channel in my mind. 🙂 I can’t wait to get this book written!!!