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Oh Boy!

yikesA couple of things to report…So here in Virginia, well in my part of Virginia, we got about 5 inches of snow. Maybe more, I don’t exactly keep a gauge outside or check the weather, I’m only guessing based on how much is sitting on top of the bird feeders. Anyway, it was enough that kept me inside. I went to the grocery store last night after going to the movies. We saw ‘Sing’. You know, the one with the dancing pig? It was decent. I only wish the lady next to me hadn’t eaten onions and believed in freely belching in my direction. It was pretty disgusting. The movie made me laugh a few times. And who knew Scarlett Johansson could sing?

But that was the end of my evening. It began in the salon chair, 12 hours earlier than that. I got a haircut about 3 weeks ago and the style wasn’t exactly working for me. I cursed and cringed everyday, but avoided calling and expressing my heartburn over the hairdo. As if telling them might make a worse cut out of the situation. Like sending a burger back to the kitchen and having someone spit in it, or something. So…I wish I’d trusted my gut. I called, and they were too happy to “fix” it. Mind you, I love my stylist. She’s the best, but after I had heart palpitations seeing all my hair end up on the ground, I’m rethinking how much I love her. I. have. no. hair. No, really. None. Okay, so a little. Have you ever seen ‘Steel Magnolias’ when Julia Roberts gets all her hair cut off because she’s sick? Yeah, that about sums it up. I wanted to cry…pull my coat over my head…wear a disguise to work. My four boys are now sporting longer hair than me. Yikes. So I have a wig, hair growth vitamins, and a box or two of tissues to get me through the few weeks to grow an inch. 😩

Subject change…The snow has delayed my son returning to college. Not that I mind! 🙂 It’s been so nice having him home. So what if the laundry heap is higher, and the amount of food to make grows larger…I’ll take it!

Yet another subject…(it’s the short hair, I can’t even think long-term anymore!) Now I’ve got to get back to writing my next book! “Searching for Sarah” is coming along. My heroine is inspired by Jennifer Garner. What a sweet girl. She got the raw end of the deal with Ben, I feel. Really? You need a nanny when you have that sweet, pretty girl that’s your wife? I’ll make sure to give her a stand-up guy in my story! How does Kevin Costner sound?kevin_costner

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Cheaters

cheatersSo, what’s your take on cheaters? Harsh label, huh? I felt kind of judgmental just typing it. But, that’s what it is, right? Cheating.

I’m writing about cheating in my new book and I’ve got to tell you, the topic has cropped up in conversations more than once before  with my friends. One is a professed cheater. She knew it was wrong, but the situation presented itself, and she crossed the line of integrity…honesty, and morality. Which begs the question, is it situational or do you think it’s somewhat of a person’s makeup? Whether it be environmental or chemical. Like alcoholism. No matter what, the person can’t stay committed to one person. My other friend is like this; she’s a habitual cheater. It doesn’t concern her that she’s exclusive with someone, if another cuter guy walks into the room, she becomes single. Who could trust a person like this? Sadly, the guy never knows until it’s too late that she’s made up this way. And furthermore, is the cheater capable of changing? Capable of being reformed? Can they ever be trusted again? It’s not like we can do a scientific truth study. We can’t tag their ears and follow them like bears in the wild. And, who can trust what they say to be true?

In the book I’m writing, the girl has no trust issues with her cheater. She figures it was a one time thing and it won’t happen anymore. But, if you were the one who was cheated on, could you ever trust that person again? I don’t think I could. Even the one friend who it was situational, she’s done it once… what makes you think she wouldn’t again? And, what about everyone for that matter? Isn’t everyone capable of it? What separates someone from crossing the line? A vow? I suppose if the vow means what it should. Some people even think that if your thoughts veer toward someone else, it’s the same as cheating. Is anyone that pure not to have one solitary impure thought about someone other than their significant other?

I read a news story where the secretary was suing her employer for being fired. His response was that if she continued to work there it might jeopardize his fidelity to his wife. If I’m not mistaken, I think he won the suit. Crazy how truthful he was. I’m not sure how I’d feel as his spouse. Hmm…he was attracted enough to fire the lady? Does that mean he’s less attracted to me? Of course that’s what I’d think. Not, bravo for clearing that explosive possibility. What a slippery slope!

My boyfriend’s point of view is that you choose to cheat. Well, sure, that’s true enough. But, isn’t there sometimes an element of accident in it, too? I’m certainly not condoning the accidental theory, just presenting it as a viewpoint.

Any thoughts?

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